The Truth About Meeting Women

When I turned 18, I felt like the world was my oyster. I looked at everything that was now available to me and I thought to myself, "what can I do to make things work out in my favor." I took a road trip, started new hobbies, and in a few weeks started college. But there was one thing I was never comfortable doing which plagued me for weeks. I continually wondered to myself, "how do I talk to women".

It was a simple question - one that I had asked myself since I started High School, but not one that had bothered me so much as when I got to college and really saw what I was missing out on. I was shy though, and hid behind my studies, hoping to find something there that I wasn't getting in my social life.

Fast forward a few years and I nothing like that shy, awkward college student. I'm not necessarily your prototypical Cassanova or anything, but I am a different man and I haven't asked "how do I talk to women" in years.

The secret to the confidence that I discovered does not lie in simply getting over your fear. There are a lot of necessary steps and tricks that you need to learn to successfully talk to women. But, confidence will always be at the top of the list.

Of the women I was interested in, I was always most attracted to asian women, and yet I could not bring myself to talk to them because I felt so intimidated - by their beauty, their large groups of friends, and most of all by my own lack of confidence.

But, when I realized that I was good enough to talk to any woman I met and to put myself out there as a viable catch, all of that faded away. With confidence came a willingness to take a plunge and ignore my other insecurities. I didn't care what her friends thought or how beautiful she was. I could date that woman just like any other guy. And I did.

I won't lie and say I dated hundreds or thousands of women, but did okay for myself, and when I was attracted to a particular woman, I would not hesitate to talk to her and see if she would have a meal or grab a drink with me. If I was shut down, all the better. At least I tried. It's not about how you look or what you do for a living and it's not about how she looks or what she looks for in a man; it's about how you feel about yourself and what she perceives from that.

Travis Stroup has been writing about male confidence and how to meet the right woman for many years. You can read more about how to combat the question of "how do I meet women" at his website.